Honey, DON'T push that button!

My morning was screwed because I don’t know what I did that the someone who is pretty dear to my husband to be had to tell me formal is important!!!!

“…you have to fulfill certain expectations…”

“…classic is classy…”

“…not too trendy, not too vogue-ish…”

etc... etc…

Ok… I don’t see any of the gowns that allow me to walk down the red carpet (I’m talking about the Hollywood Oscar kind!) is not formal enough. In fact it’s more than formal. It’s something you wear to a black tie dinner or Toyota Concert! Of course, I’m not wearing black ;)

So, you should know I wasn’t very happy with the advice because

1) It’s too close to the wedding day and these should be the least I need to watch out and I think I have too many dress already.
2) I have more important thing to worry about!
3) I’ve spent enough money and I’m still dreaming of that French Lace.
4) She has not seen any of my gown other then the picture of a modern one shoulder cheongsam which I have not even got it made yet (I’m so going to make that because it’s so bloody stunning!)

So I started having argument with myself for the rest of the day and poor Jason got kicked by me a few times… sorry…

Here! If I meet all the above ‘expectations’ - classic is classy, not too trendy, not too vogue-ish. I will definitely look like one of my guests, for example: Sue and Hazel.

Sue and Hazel is the only lady I know, who has the money to dress up. They can be as classy as they love to be, as trendy as they want, as vogue-ish as the like. How many times already they almost outshine the bride?

Gosh! I really want that DVF dress…

Alright! Maybe she is just overly concern because Alvin told her somebody told him “lunch need not be formal” and she linking it to my “I don’t want anything too formal and traditional” together and decided to send me an email like that because she is so afraid of me being too casual.

I hate to say this: I was NEVER CASUAL when it comes to anybody’s wedding!

I replied “Thank you for the advice. May I know why you are concern about this?”

Now I understand why most brides often turn into bridezillas even if they don’t want to. And Sue commented I’m not bridezilla enough for her.

“You should live up to ‘it’s my wedding, I do what I pleased!’ attitude!” She said.

Hahaha… my nastiness is still not up to her expectation.

Anyway, I got a reply from her.

Because when you sent me that cheongsam photo, you said you (quote) don't want it to be so formal.

If you can't be formal for your wedding, then when???

… I felt it necessary to say what's on my mind

I try not to interfere and meddle in people's affairs but I speak up when I need to

you might feel defensive especially since I haven't seen your wedding gown (and I am sure it is elegant!) so please, YY, don't be offended by my comments as it is better to say early than talk after.

From what you have shown me so far, you and Alvin are doing a far fancier job than we did so keep up the good work.

… and I had just graduated and hadn't started our jobs yet so we were dirt poor, couldn't afford much.

Please let me know if you are offended, I will apologize!

It’s sure is sincere and she just win back my respect.

Thanks.

Yes. I was offended, but it's ok. No need to apologies.

I've already purchased the gown. Elegant or not? It's not Vera Wang so everybody can have different opinion.

The evening gown is a gift from a friend as wedding present. It's Beatrice Looi. I trust her taste in fashion and I will wear it for the evening.

I not only want to look different, I don't want to waste money on something I wear only once. I've made sure my dress and I are fit enough to go on the red carpet; I've made sure they are one of a kind. Best of all (if possible), I want to wear them again for other event.

Yes. I did say I do not want something so formal because I don't want to wear a cheongsam that look just like another cheongsam. One shoulder cheongsam like that may be too "out of the box" and you may have better suggestion.

Since we don't have much money to do anything fancier, I am thinking if I should go ahead and make the one shoulder cheongsam for tea ceremony and lunch instead of making another dress for the sake of having another dress just for lunch.

There are so many things that are out of our control that are not done. We are way behind schedule.

We just got the cost from Becky yesterday.

Alvin has not got his suit made.

We have not yet confirmed the location for dinner, looks like our only choice is Merdeka Palace.

Invitation card, which supposed to be ready much earlier, the design is still not out yet!

Of all the above, we are yet to consider how many more things would cost too much that we have to omit.

Thank you for your concern. I know what I'm doing. I can only hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Any suggestions will be valued.

Did I live up to my bridezilla value?