Drama Drama Part II
The final conversation between mother of flower girl 1 (MFG1) and wedding planner (WP) and the bride (with bridegroom’s input) as follow…
WP said,
Okay, my 2 sen worth for consideration... Assuming mother of flower girl 2 (MFG2) does not opt for the 'out'...Options:a) Get Mum on the job - to work with MFG2 to find right material and getdress run-up in time. Asking a lot of Mum, given everything else she has onher plate, but if anyone can pull this off, it's her.b) If pink dress becomes a reality.....have Claudine walk down the aislefirst, followed by either (a) Flower Girl 1 (FG1) alone, or (b) FG1 and ring bearer as acouple. That way the stark comparison between FG1's attire and flower girl 2'slooks like it was by design.Pretty good idea isn’t it? I especially like the idea of small couple.
As a person who assumes a lot, MFG1 didn't agree with the arrangement because she thought she knows the bride and bridegroom very much. So she replied,
In my opinion the dress is a VERY simple design and easily reproduced, the material is stuff you see everyday, nothing exotic.
I've given mum's tailor a photo of a dress before and it was replicated like a photocopy--any good tailor can work off of a picture I sent 8 detailed photos.
MFG2 doesn't need mum's help. She just needs to go see a tailor which she hasn't done yet.
Mum is overwhelmed right now that the shed is being renovated (on top of everything else) and I don't feel that she should be asked to do this.
I also didn't think bride and bridegroom would be thrilled about one pink and one white dress, I know I wouldn't!
How hard is it to come up with a white dress, even if it doesn't match FG1's?
That's what I would vote to do: ask MFG2 to buy/make a white dress instead of pink, and in any style--forego the matching design.
What do you think?
Point number 1: what material you talking about? Is it chiffon? Is it silk? Is it satin? Ok. MFG2 misunderstood you but don’t you think you should not generalize it so much? Or is it because you want it your way because you didn’t get to do that in your wedding?
Point number 2: Mum started all this and you don’t want her help to fix it because she has too much in her hands. Well… she was the one started it isn’t it? Shouldn’t she be responsible?
Point number 3: You might not like some things that are happening here because you are too far away. Don’t forget you are pissing people off and you don’t really care about what people think because you are so “that’s the way I am, take it or leave it.”
And then WP replied,
Guess any white dress is preferable to a pink one. So unless she opts out (which in my opinion is preferred option!), suggest you insist she buy white dress, not pink.
Basically the ball was back in MFG1’s hands.
But the small couple idea is so nice. The bridesmaid is wearing pink so the little girl can wear pink too. She will look like a small bridesmaid. So nice!!!!!
The bride and bridegroom had a discussion and they felt that’s the best idea.
So the bride took the ball off MFG1.
Hi all,
Bridegroom and I do not mind to have a white flower girl and a pink flower girl. The bridesmaid gonna be in pink anyway.
We like WP's suggestion.
Re. WP's email: if pink dress becomes a reality.....have FG2 walk down the aisle first, followed by either (a) FG1 alone, or (b) FG1 and Ring bearer as a couple. That way the stark comparison between FG1's attire and FG2's looks like it was by design.
We like option b – FG1 and Ring bearer as a couple.
As for their hair, I like them to wear something simple to suit the theme. Don't forget we have a theme to follow! So something breezy would be perfect. That's why I suggested matching hair bands or ribbons.
We sincerely hope there will be no more complications.
Bride and bridegroom don’t think they should also say something to protect parents interest. It’s a small town anyway.
Just to add...
We consider MFG2's opting out a bad omen and we sincerely hope she won't.
We hope she will go out and buy or make a white dress according to what has been agreed.
Failing that, then we'll go with Becky's suggestion.
Thank you.
3 minutes later, MFG1 replied in very positive tone, surprisingly…
One pink, one white then...excellent, it's your wedding, Hehe!
Too bad this happened this way as I could have selected the other white dress with pearl beading, it was less expensive but impossible to reproduce, sigh........
Now I also have an extra sash on my hands that I paid for.
Bride, the complications were not caused on this side of the planet, it was not my choice to have to outfit a second flower girl.
“No need to reply that one.” Bridegroom said. He realized the bride was upset.
Whatever...
Flower girls tragedy solved. That’s important because it’s such a small thing. The bride only hopes that both mothers will not dress their girls into garden party doll.
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