A.M. P.M.

I found something interesting today, it says:

“Always get married early in the morning. That way, if it doesn’t work out, you haven’t wasted a whole day.”
~Mickey Rooney

Ok… the mass is going to be 12:30pm. Would it be too late? Hmmm… I don’t have a choice.

Pending

Ok. Alvin has been checking on Airasia constantly asking himself the same question over and over again: “should I book now? Should I book later?”

Oh God! At least book for those people who is already confirm like Julian and Ling la!!!!

Anyway, don’t ask me what the status is, I’m pretty confuse right now because of the chicken curry and my not so well plan holiday mood.

Grrr… it’s time to call some relative to ask them for opinion. Hopefully more sponsors. LOL… who should I call?

So the flight ticket is pending as we are depending on the schedule and Alvin is praying for the price to drop.

Am going to check out the rent a gown place in Plaza Damas on Tuesday with ever resourceful Ling, I hope they have something good to offer.

Plan Plan Plan

We have the entire plan in our hand. Becky rocks! It looks great and I think it will be executed accordingly. I’m an optimist what!

The only problem we are facing now is $$$$$$. We need lots and lots of them. I think we should just go out there and start playing something on the street hopefully can collect some money to meet the budget. I can do monkey dance you know.

Anyway, Alvin and I have been arguing a lot because we can’t really communicate with each other very well. First time planning something together seriously ma…

Serious!

Ok… now I have to think of something… maybe I can talk to mom see if she want to have a party for her friend. That’s just a thought and an idea from my big sister.

Oh dear… I hate Ling and Julian for having so much more time than us. I will make sure they go through hell on my day. Muahahahaha…

*Is julian reading this?

Sue and I will go fabric shopping and we are still discussing on what colour to wear. I should be borrowing her jewelry because she is a jewelry freak! The design is more or less there, the designer is not expensive according to her, and… hmmm… I hope it is within budget, if not.

What to do? I’m so kia-su I don’t want to rent a gown… thinking about it, if I can transform my gown into a ballroom gown, I save on fabric ok!

I’m not wearing poor white. It’s gotta be some colour that is so faint so close to white but it’s not white. Get the picture? Maybe I will be wearing a hat instead of veil… I want to look mysterious when I walking down the aisle…

Anyway, none of this shopping is happening soon because Sue needs to recover from her pain from child birth.

Photographer is essential but they are so expensive; videographer? Hmmm… do we really need them?

Alvin is thinking of getting the big huge happening great Nikon SLR camera and gets someone who really knows how to take photo to come and take photo for us. Ahem… is it necessary?

I’m worry about the make up artist and hair stylist. I’m not sure what I want. Maybe I should consider doing my own make up and get Sue to do my hair. That’s Pasree idea, not mine.

We’ll see how after Christmas.

Now, should the maid of honour and flower girl wear blue?

Team Work

There’s so much fun doing wedding preparation with friends. It is especially fun with our best man and maid of honour, Julian and Ling who are soon to be married to each other too.

We had a conference on MSN just now. We have so many input and so many things to do. Like Alvin says to build a ship seems easy, but the technical and scientific part is complicated.

Julian and I are typical Capricornia. We want our wedding to be different and perfect. We want it to be a beautiful affair. At the same time, we want to save money.

Alvin and Ling are much simpler. Other than saving money and work on budget, the most important thing in their mind is to keep everybody happy.

That’s what we call opposite attraction, a little push and a little pull to make the wheel turning and stopping from time to time. Alvin, Julian, Ling and I made perfect team.

I always want to find an easy way out, that’s why I can’t do this alone… Good that I have Ling to give me support. She is the gift from God to me, and thank God she also have Julian to back her up when it comes to creative thinking.

So far the communication had done its job. The date is set, the church is booked, and bottles problem are solved.

The floating plans are soft copy of “save the date” card and invitation card is to be finalized on Christmas, hotel and reception venue to be confirmed, itinerary to be arranged on the wedding day.

Save the date is to be sent out after Christmas, invitation card to be sent after Chinese New Year.

Now, Ling and I are to check out where is the best place to rent a tuxedo for our men. It’s going to be fun. We are conducting 2 weddings, our men shall leave the final decision to our mercy. Muahahahahahaha…

Good Star Bad Star

Alvin and I went to SFX sign up for CMPC (Catholic Marriage Preparation Course). This is the only we need to get it done if we want to get married in Church. I’m neither a Catholic nor Christian, but I don’t mind doing it.

The registration was easy, we learned if we are going to register here in West Malaysia Alvin may lose his identity as an East Malaysian.

It’s a well known fact that Sabahan and Sarawakian have special privileges at home. So for children sake, it is better to get register there so the future of the children is brighter blah… blah… blah…

Ok. We never know maybe one day we have lots of money and can afford a couple of children you see. So we though this is an interesting fact to be considered. I will not gain anything out of it but I shouldn’t affect what Alvin is enjoying now as a Sarawakian.

The lady told us an interesting story about a Malay couple came to see her wanted to sign up for CMPC. Of course the church doesn’t allow. How would you know if they are spy from some xx department to investigate blah… blah… so she told them they are not allow to join the course.

I’m not sure why this Muslim couple has the thought of doing it in the Catholic Church but it was a funny story.

When we left the office, we realized there’s a funeral going on in the church. And the car was blocked by many other cars, especially one bloody red Hyundai blocked a lane that can park at least another 3 cars.

We can’t tell the priest to ask the feller to move the car, the only thing we can do was wait.

It was a good half an hour and it was hot. Oh my Lord! Who was the owner of the red Hyundai? I wanna kill her (I assume it’s a she)!!!

So much of being the children of God… can’t even behave like a civilize people living on earth. I wonder how it is like in Heaven. They must have bad traffic planning.

God bless me for being bad, but I sure will behave myself in heaven.

Oh well, she must be devastated because somebody died, she had no time to look for parking anyway. So might as well block a few cars and auntie (the deceased) will understand.

We were in the church so we can’t curse so much and be angry or God may not bless us on our wedding.
Never mind. Alvin told me a few stories about him an alter boy because they does a few things that picked up my attention. Alvin, being a person hated the heat in the middle of afternoon, for once, he was happy.

We also talk about the good time and the bad time to get things done. Now we done the registration and there’s funeral and our car is blocking by some moaner. This is not a good time. Should have checked the position of the stars first, I said.

Alvin was happy that I’m thinking that way.

The course will not happen until March 2007, so now I have enough time to be get my dress done and his tuxedo rented. His sister in U.S. insisted him to wear a tuxedo.

“You are the groom, you have to be different.” Aileen, she is the mother of the flower boy and the flower girl.

Did I say flower boy? Oh. Her son Justine is 6 years old if I remember correctly were told to be a flower boy. He wasn’t very pleased but accepted the job. Anyway, he is the ring bearer, substitute as flower boy just in case there is no rings to bear.

Rachael, the flower girl is very cute. She will be the angel in the wedding. I can see her in the rosy pink dress and… anybody knows what’s the name of the hat, make with flowers that the Hawaiian girls wearing on their head?

Anyway, that was what we were talking about in the funeral.

2 traffic policemen came with their Harley bike. Wow! We know this is the funeral of the rich and famous.

Alright, the funeral is over and we waited 10 minutes for everybody to move their cars. I don’t know who owns the red Hyundai but it doesn’t matter anymore because we had a smooth exit.

Remember the 2 traffic policemen I mentioned? They took care of the traffic! We were so lucky.

Hmmm… looks like the position of stars wasn’t bad at all.

One Down

After one week of ding-donging. We got our date after Becky leaning on dad and mom regarding things to be considered. Flights and hotel can’t wait any longer and we need to confirm relative’s attendant soon.

Friends can take care of themselves but the relatives are the troublesome one. You need to put out the red carpet to make sure they are more than happy to attend the wedding when the date is set.

After calling Alvin’s dad in the morning, we got the date in the evening. It is not about good date for the groom or the bride, but the good timing to allow things happening smoothly for the day. You know what I mean? We are concern about the day where things can run smoothly J

We have 3 dates to choose from - 2nd of June between 10:12am and 11am; 9th of June between 11:26am and 12:56am; and 16th of June between 12:36pm and 1pm.

9th sounds pretty and nice (long lasting in Chinese) and the hour is the longest too. So 9th of June it is J

It’s time to design the invitation card, book the church and checking out hotels and prices.

Woohooo!!! More headache is coming and I’m gonna get busy.

Stay tune!

Beckaloo ~ The Wedding Planner

Last Saturday, Alvin and I met up with Becky to talk about the wedding. Basically I have an idea I want to tell her but Alvin seems to take charge on how to make everybody happy.

I’m treating Becky as a professional wedding planner, but Alvin treating her as part of the family which he selected to execute the planning.

I know Becky has head full of ideas as soon as we told her the theme of the wedding. What we need to do is to give her information she needs to make it happen. This also includes activities before and after wedding.

Like I say before, it may sound harsh I put it as “my wedding, my call”. That’s why I need professional help to meet the requirement. I do not want surprises and I do not want anybody to get upset.

I believe when the wedding planner is involved. Family members should respect our decision because we have thought of each other’s character and our relatives and friends. At the end of the day, we want them to feel comfortable. We want them to be part of our life in the most important day of ours.

The meeting was fun. I let Alvin do all the talking. After many things that he has to say, he added “strictly no singing and dancing.”

“What about speech? The groom should give speech. What about the best man and maid of honour?” Becky suggested: “maybe the bride also want to give speech?”

“Oh yes! I have a lot of things to say.” I jokingly say.

“This one we need to give her time limit.” She said.

Maybe the speech thing is not necessary…

She suggested many things that we can do. We need to decide on colours and costumes. I showed her a few cards design that I like and ask her if she can design some card according to the poem I selected.

I’m beginning to understand every girl wants their wedding to be perfect. I realized there are many things we need to do.

We have to think about what music to use in the church and the dinner.

Church wedding - Which priest will be hosting the ceremony? What type of ceremony would the priest prefer? Does my sisters willing to read the hymn? Who is going to be the Master of Ceremony? It is not as simple as I thought! I leave that to Becky.

Am I not? I am so lucky because I got the best deal in the world.

I also told her the few characters in the family so she will know how to take care of situations. She already has an idea of what to do and how to make it smoother. Basically I want her to be in charged.

We are still waiting for the stars and the moon to tell us when is the time to get married, anyway, we can start working on other things like design of cards and costumes, colours, flowers, favours and sourcing for make-up artists and hairdresser.

We were worried about budget. Becky and Tony are giving us a very generous offer. It is going to be a great help and I can’t waste their time and effort.

When I’m sending Becky to her sister’s home, I told Becky I want to be the stress free bride. She promised me I will be the few luckiest brides in the world.

I am confident this is going to be a happiest moment of our life. Now, I’m off working on the guests list and sort out a few things I need to send to Becky.

Briefing

All these years, I’ve been telling my friends I am not going to get married and settle down. After years of ding-donging and after careful consideration, I thought it’s time to get married.

It has got nothing to do with age and trying to have kids before approaching the dangerous zone for some unfortunate event. It is because I think I’ve met a really nice man and he will do anything to make me happy.

So now we are up for our plan – tying the knot some time next year.

When I first break the news to my mom, she was very happy. She is a bit confused because she doesn’t know what she wants to do.

I am going to be married to a very different family… well I don’t like the idea of marrying into a family but there’s no other way to say it. If I say “we are dealing with a family from different background and it may not be our decision on what is going to happen” may sound harsh because there’s a lot of thing I don’t like is going to happen and I’ll be stressed out because I have been dealing with this kind of problem many times.

I make it to a point that this is my wedding and I want to do it my way. My guests will enjoy themselves, and most importantly, all my family and friends will be with me on this very special day (it may not happen again).

My fiancé may not agree with me because he wants to make sure everybody is happy. Idealistic huh?! There’s no way everybody will be happy unless someone is taking charge.

At some point, when there are elders in the family, we have to invite peoples they want to invite. It is not by choice. It is an important affair. It involves to entire society and it may affect the economy.

We need a wedding planner.

When I told my friends I am getting married they thought I was just pulling their legs. Now it is going to happen and they have a lot of things to do because I know exactly what each and everyone of them have to do – to have fun with me.

There are lots of things to do. To begin with, I need a theme. My fiancé and I love the beach. It would be lovely if we can have a beach party.

Nope! Too many people that are going to get invited which we are not going to meet after the wedding would be some people who only play “black tie dinner” with beautiful gowns and tuxedos.

No beach wedding is a down side but there’s a will there’s a way. I told my fiancé whatever is it, I want it to be perfect and I want the theme to be the beach.

He wants to make sure everybody to be happy in the process since his parents would like the entire Kuching to be there and his siblings will surely want to get involves at some points.

Before wedding, somehow there will be dinner somewhere organizes by his parents. During the wedding day, there must have a list of stuff they want to do. After the wedding day, if there are some relatives left, they would want more lunch or dinner to knit the ties between 2 families until everybody sick and tired of eating and drinking and go home.

I don’t want my family to be pressured. I want them to enjoy the days they are going to spend in Kuching, on my wedding day.

We need a wedding planner.